A submissive is a person who makes a conscious choice to give up some or all control of her life to another person – a Dominant or a Top.
Dominance and submission is about a power exchange between two consenting adults. It is about the control within the dynamics of that relationship, whether it be a full time 24/7 relationship, or a casual meeting, or a part time arrangement.
Choosing to be submissive means to allow someone else to control your body and behavior within the preset limits you and that particular person, i.e., the Dominant, have agreed upon. Submission is not a sign of weakness, some of the most successful and strongest people are true submissives.
Submission is not about passiveness, it is not about being a doormat – most submissives are intelligent and well balanced people just fulfilling their basic desires to submit and to give up control.
Submission is not about kinky sex and whips and chains – though those things can and do play a part in our lifestyle, it is much deeper than just that, and comes from the heart.
A submissive does whatever her Dominant requires of her, within the boundaries already agreed upon by both parties in the relationship.
Why Only a Truly Dominant Partner Will Appreciate A Submissive?
When the two meant for one another are finally able to meet, they will grow together in all aspects of life and feel more fulfilled than ever before. For a woman to submit is a beautiful thing indeed. To find that special partner to submit to is just as beautiful, for it is not easy. These submissive feelings are always there beneath the surface. It takes a dominant partner to recognize, nurture and bring out those vulnerable feelings. And when it comes to relationship and marriage, submission is not about dominance, bondage or an S&M kind of thing. It is about love, passion, respect and compromises!
What Type of Submissive?
The psychological submissive gets her reward from the physical act of submission, and can often have masochistic tendencies, liking harder play than most. This submissive is into it for the pain and humiliation and often sees these activities as a punishment, which gives her the release she craves.
Quite often a psychological submissive is only a part time player, having another life completely and keeping both sides of her life separate from each other.
The sexual submissive is also sometimes described as the immediate submissive, and her need is filled by the consequences of her submission, in other words the sexual satisfaction or gratification she feels from submitting to a Dominant. Sometimes it can be a release from guilty feelings that she likes these activities, sometimes she just simply craves the endorphin rush and once it has passed, she feels no need to continue to be submissive.
The natural submissive is also known as the true submissive and usually has slavish tendencies. Her submission goes way beyond the sexual side of things and is more a part of her intrinsic personality. Her deep need is to relinquish control, and to please the Dominant in all ways, and her fulfillment is the very act of submission in all forms.
